I came to Melanie expecting standard coaching, but instead found her insight and wisdom led me to rethink my path.
I was not truly happy with the direction I was heading, but it was Melanie’s patient, skillful questioning that turned my life around. Her kind and thoughtful guidance has changed so much for me.
I can say that I truly love what I am pursuing, and I’m not sure I could have arrived there with anyone else. I am truly grateful to have met someone as tuned in to the community and to her clients as Melanie is.
~~ You’re a shy, sensitive, introverted person, struggling to understand why you just can’t seem to fit all the puzzle pieces together the way everyone else can. You’re bursting with ideas about what you want to accomplish in the world, but can’t seem to get anything moving forward long enough to matter.
It’s just so much easier to stay home, and stay small, isn’t it?
~~ You’ve been searching for your right, best place in this world for a very long time. And you don’t understand what’s wrong, why you can’t just find your “It” thing and stick to it, for heaven’s sakes.
~~ You’re not a quitter — you know how to get things done. You’ve already dealt with some pretty hard stuff in your life. But you need to make some changes in your life, and you’re beginning to notice that the things you’ve relied on in the past to get you through aren’t working anymore.
You can’t seem to power through it on your own this time.
~~ You’re finally ready to step into the business world for the first time as an entrepreneur. But … oh my, you’re like a deer frozen in the headlights of an oncoming train.
You can’t seem to start doing what needs doing. Maybe you should get some more training, or another degree … then you’ll be ready.
~~ You’re been been secretly holding onto a big dream for a very long time. It might be about your work in the world. Could be about living in a foreign country for a while. Or maybe it’s about that book that’s getting tired of waiting for you to write.
But you keep say to yourself, over and over again, “I can’t. I don’t have enough [fill in the blank]. Maybe when [fill in the blank].”
~~ Surprise! You’re in mid-life, supposed to know what you’re doing ’cause this isn’t your first rodeo. You’ve just begun a new adventure — maybe it’s a geographical move, a new job, or you’ve just left a relationship (or it’s left you).
But wait a second … things aren’t anything like you thought they’d be! You’re uncomfortable, not sleeping very well, stressed and anxious, beginning to doubt your decision to move, or leave, or make the change. What were you thinking?! And what are you going to do now?
~~ You’ve been a working professional for several years now. You’ve established a good career doing what you loved, and you’ve been well-paid for it.
But something’s not quite right anymore. You can’t see yourself doing the same thing in five or ten years. The clock is ticking, and you have zero ideas about how to begin moving in a new direction. And it is stressing.you.out.
~~ You can’t let yourself even dream the dream … . Other people don’t seem to have trouble going big, reaching for the stars. But you?
You back away, or go sideways, or somehow end up down yet another rabbit hole that takes forever to climb out of. In the meantime, your real life — the one you’re here to live — is passing right on by.
~~ You know what you want. And you’ve been trying like a crazy person to manifest that perfect job, relationship, life … forever.
But something is holding you back. And you have no idea what it is.
~~ You did it! You made it through all those years of working, and raising the kids. You’re on the other side of the rest of your life. And now it’s time to settle into your most creative self. Uh-oh … now what?! What does that even mean?
Three Key Elements
In working with so many people over the years, I’ve found there are three keys to unlocking the treasure chest to that feeling of aaahhh, yes!.
Awareness of what you’ve been telling yourself about what is and isn’t possible, what’s been happening (or not), what you deserve (or not), opens the door onto the gorgeous landscape of what’s actually possible.
It can save years of misguided effort when you work with a psychologist-trained mentor who knows how to access those subconscious thoughts and beliefs that can hold you hostage.
Curiosity, innovative ideas and creative magic are powerful tools for success and happiness.
Everyone has the ability to live from a narrative that fits who you truly are, rather than the tired, old worn-out story handed to you by family, culture, and early (sometimes painful or traumatic) experiences.
- Creative Action
Creative action taken with conscious awareness of what’s possible — and what’s true for you — is the path forward. ‘Cause when all the cows have come home, success or failure is about the action you take on behalf of your own sweet self and your sacred longings and desires.
What It Takes
Success in any endeavor is best built on the foundation of happiness. At least, that’s what the latest research shows.
An integrated mentoring program that weaves together:
- emotional health and well-being,
- along with solid creative action strategies = success.
This can be complex stuff that needs gentle, safe tending. It’s good, and sweet, to move through some of these things with a trained professional.
When these pieces are in place, a change that can feel utterly overwhelming on your own can become an exciting time of blowing that too-tiny box wide open, and achieving remarkable progress.
Is This You?
This approach works well if you:
- understand that everything is “figurable-outable,” but sometimes you need some help figuring it out;
- are willing to use your curiosity and creativity to do things a little bit differently;
- accept that, sometimes, the most important investment you can make is yourself;
- want your life to feel rich with happiness and joy and abundance, rather than struggle and loneliness and fear.